Lao Tzu: Really powerful people can see for themselves.Time:2019-10-21 | Release:Inspirational | Category:Inspirational article
Lao Tzu: Really powerful people can see for themselves.
The most important thing in a person's life is self-consciousness. A person who can see himself must be a high-energy person and a living and understanding person.
The so-called insight into oneself is to recognize their own abilities and boundaries, to understand their own strengths and weaknesses, to know how they think and behave, and to act accordingly to better cope with the world.
1. Insights, starting with ignorance
The hardest thing for man is to admit his ignorance, because once he does this, he means that he wants to show weakness in front of people and put down the following.
And because of the animal's physiological instinct, people will not show the fragility, fear of being attacked, and psychologically reluctant to put the following.
Therefore, this has caused most people, who are unwilling to admit that they are ignorant, and cannot see themselves. The gap between people is thus opened.
If it is said that ignorance is the beginning of self-insight, self-insight is the beginning of life change.
There is a fragment in "Super Orator" that me remembers deeply, that is, the paragraph of the genius child star Yang Xinlong.
Yang Xinlong loved to speak from a young age. When he was nine years old, his speech video was transmitted to his online by his father. As a result, he suddenly became a fire. The netizen also named him "the speech emperor."
Later in 2011, CCTV Network Spring Festival Evening, he was invited to become a judge of the power group, and worked with other child stars.
From that moment on, his life trajectory has changed, and he has really experienced a "small age." But as he said, young adulthood is a double-edged sword. If you don't play well, you will hurt yourself.
He also lost himself because of the fan-like care of the fans and the aura of the stars.
After he became famous, he went back to school and looked down on other students. He couldn't get along with them. He had asked his partner who was waiting for him to wait for half an hour in the cold winter. As a result, the last partners were far from him, and he did not have a friend.
Fortunately, he realized his mistakes in time. On the stage of "Super Speaker", he told the story and, in front of all the audience, admit his classmates: "I'm sorry, Yang Xinlong is wrong."
At that moment, all the audience moved, and I read the expectation and affirmation from their eyes: a person who dares to admit his mistakes and dare to admit his ignorance must be a promising person in the future.
After the speech, his instructor Le Jia said to him: Self-insight is a lifelong lesson. You can tell your own growth trajectory in public speeches, and publicly admit your ignorance. It is extremely powerful.
It’s hard to know yourself, it’s hard to realize your ignorance, and once you do, life will start to be different.
I have recently read the book "A Brief History of Humanity". The author Yuwar Herali has many discoveries that are very shocking. I talked a bit about my deep memory. The book talks about Europeans compared with the Orientals. Why can we open the road to industrial civilization under the guidance of the scientific spirit?
The big reason is that the Western world is willing to take the lead in admitting its ignorance.
The foundation of modern science is the Latin prefix "ignoramus-", which means "we don't know." During the scientific revolution, Western maps left a lot of blanks because "we don't know."
The king of the Eastern Kingdom is just the opposite, thinking that he knows everything. The author writes in the book: "The scientific revolution is not a 'revolution of knowledge', but an 'ignorant revolution'. The great discovery that really made the scientific revolution start is to discover that human beings have no knowledge of the most important issues. '"
The true insight is that there is a high degree of self-awareness, deep ignorance of oneself, and insight into the problem. Insights begin with admitting your own ignorance.
2, self-insight, determine your height of life
The process of human growth is a process of constantly understanding oneself. The higher the level, the more clearly you can understand yourself. The lower the level, the less you know who you are.
In the Tao Te Ching, it is said: knowing the wisdom of the people, knowing the truth. It means that people who can understand others are wise, and those who can understand themselves are brilliant.
Simply speaking, it is self-insight.
The reason why Laozi said this is because it is not easy for people to make self-insight, and when it comes to self-discipline, it is often a metaphor for the idiom "I don't see eyelashes."
Everyone has a pair of eyes. These eyes can observe astronomy, geography, and society. They only turn a blind eye to the eyelashes on the eyelids. Therefore, the poet Du Mu of the Tang Dynasty also issued a sigh of "the eyelashes are not seen in front of the eyes."
From this we can realize that under normal circumstances, we find that the shortcomings and disadvantages of others are easier, and it is as difficult to find that our shortcomings and disadvantages are as "eyes are not visible".
Therefore, people need to use a "expensive" word to describe the self-conceived and valuable, and the self-knowledge is the way.
In fact, the process of true self-consciousness is painful, especially for two people, one is the person who is affected by the strong external force during the growth process, and the other is the person who suffers from the character defect.
But once anyone really does this, life is likely to change.
Because, first, it helps us to identify who we are, so as to find out what we want to do in the end, and secondly, to help us realize our problems and limitations, and thus lay the foundation for the cultivation of individuality.
It is like building a house, and the foundation is firmly built to build a high-rise building.
The German poet Heine, whom I deeply admire, is such a person. His understanding of himself has always been clear and clear.
Heine was born into a Jewish merchant family. His parents wanted him to do business, but he found himself not interested. He was interested in the law, so he went to university to study law.
Later, he realized that he liked poetry , so he decisively gave up the law and loyal to his heart to start writing poetry.
After writing poetry, Heine began to travel, extensively contacted the society, wrote prose notes, and his writing also satirically satirized Germany's backward state.
Later, when the July Revolution broke out, Heine was immediately encouraged. He left the country and came to Paris. Since then, his poetry has reached its peak.
Similar experiences include Lu Xun , Keats, Freud, and many outstanding people in our lives.
Their attitude towards self-consciousness is unrelenting. Although they have experienced painful struggles, the process of struggle is an important process of understanding the self, and after the insight, the new height of life will be ushered in.
3, everyone must learn to see yourself
When it comes to insights, someone may ask, what is insight? What is the difference between insight and insight?
After many thoughts, I think this answer is more appropriate.
Insight is to see yourself, and insight is to read others;
Insight is based on consciousness, and insight is based on love;
Insight is painful, and insight is very happy.
Recently, I often wondered why it is more difficult to read myself than to see others. Everyone behaves like a philosopher when they persuade others, but when they encounter difficulties, they behave like fools.
The final conclusion is that people are never willing to really see the true self. Because he is afraid, afraid to see his own darkness and defects, afraid to dissect himself and face reality.
It can be said that most people are missing in self-consciousness. Because of this, it is more valuable to see yourself, but it is also something everyone must do.
So how do you see yourself?
First, self- insight requires technology. That is to know oneself, to know one's own ignorance, to know their own abilities and boundaries, to understand their own strengths and weaknesses, to understand their own way of thinking and behavior.
Because many times, people's self-awareness may not be clear, they will blame others on the problem, in fact, the root of all problems is you.
Second, self-discipline requires self-discipline. Pay attention to the psychology and actions of your own key moments. If you have no records at the time, it is difficult to restore the whole picture of facts only by later memories.
The patience of such a record must sometimes be driven by the goal, that is, from the first day of recording, you know that you will use it in the future, use it to reflect and guide your actions, and you know that it is not difficult to record a day. It is difficult to resist the temptation to stick to the record.
Third, self-intervention requires courage. Bravely admit and face your weaknesses, defects, darkness, etc. Especially when people who don't know you at all but like you suddenly find that the people they like are like this, it is likely that they will all run away. At this time you have to be rational, you can't lose the square inch.
Because human nature is what people like, it is just the illusion that they imagined, not the facts. This is why the star must be vigilant, and it is necessary to keep the inner distance and the mystery with the fans, because the makeup remover is not beautiful. Similarly, the truth may not be beautiful.
Self- insight is a lifelong lesson. When you start to see yourself, you can step up to the new height of life. The real gap between people lies in self-insight.